The Narcissist's Traits

    Not a word from their mouth can be trusted; their heart is filled with destruction.
Their throat is an open grave; with their tongue they speak deceit.  Psalm 5:9


What is important to remember is that the Narcissist won't display just one or two of these traits--but ALL of them, all of the time. 



No Empathy.
The only person the narcissist will ever pity or feel sorry for is him/herself.  The narcissist is completely detached from all other human beings. No matter what you (or anyone else) feel(s) or suffer(s), the narcissist will turn it around to focus on and feel sorry for him/herself.   The narcissist may even let you know that whatever you suffer from (whether illness or calamity) is well-deserved.  The narcissist will gloat and even laugh over the misfortune of others.


Amoral / Lack of Conscience.
If the narcissist believes he/she can get away with doing something (even if it's illegal, immoral, or will hurt someone), he/she will do it.


No Remorse..
Not even when the narcissist gets caught or reaps the consequences of his/her actions will he/she express any regret or remorse for wrongdoing; consequences will always be derived from someone else's mistreatment of the narcissist. The narcissist will never admit any guilt, will never reach out to make any amends, and will never apologize to anyone he/she has ever wronged or hurt. The narcissist's lack of remorse is always justified.


Hyper-Sensitive to Criticism.
Any criticism, no matter how helpful or constructive, no matter how slight the criticism may be, will be perceived by the narcissist as an attack. The narcissist will overreact (with rage) and will often retaliate in a very hostile and vicious manner.  Remember this when he/she turns and rips you to shreds -- the narcissist is a vengeful creature.


Chronic Compulsive Lying.
This is what it is.  The narcissist will change stories and facts to inflate his/her image of being a righteous, wonderful, self-sacrificing martyr, and will often tell flagrant lies to make other people look bad. Just remember that anything you tell a narcissist in confidence will be twisted into a lie and used against you repeatedly.


Excessively Self-Centered.
The narcissist needs to be the center of attention, the most loved, most praised, most important person in your world (and his/hers).  The narcissist will try to cause fights and animosity between you and anyone else that he/she thinks you love more than the narcissist.  All conversations will inevitably revolve around the narcissist.  You will never be able to have a two-way conversation with the narcissist; he/she will never talk 'to' you, but will only talk 'at' you.  And no matter what the topic of any conversation may begin as, it will always wind up completely focused on the narcissist's self-pity, opinions, beliefs, misery, etc.


Obsession with Perception of Him/Herself.
The narcissist firmly believes he/she is more insightful and more enlightened than everyone else. Despite the fact that the narcissist may be a blatantly vindictive, bitter, hateful, resentful, vengeful, bigoted person at home in his/her own domain, the narcissist will spend every waking moment painting a different 'image' of him/herself, and obsessively looking for validation by ensuring that everyone in his/her sphere of influence accepts and believes in the phony image.  If the narcissist's true image is exposed, he/she will often retaliate against the 'evil antichrist' who tarnished the narcissist's perfect phony image.


Exploitation of Others.
The narcissist will (or try to) use and exploit anyone who comes into contact with him/her. Also, if called out on his/her exploitations of other people, the narcissist will either produce several reasons to justify his/her wrongdoings, or simply retaliate and get revenge on the person who exposes the Narcissist.


Chronic, Irrational Envy (Jealousy).
The narcissist is constantly miserable with his/her family and possessions, and will often express unhealthy jealousy or envy (and even resentfulness) over the families and possessions of other people.  For example, if you have a happy family life or more wealth than the narcissist, he/she will constantly wonder why you were so lucky, when he/she is more deserving. The narcissist will never conclude that you actually work hard to have a happy family and wealth, and therefore, instead of working for the same outcome, he/she will only feel jealous, resentful and cheated out of life's good things.


Chronic Competitiveness.
This is not normal, healthy competition, but a type of competitiveness that is often bizarre. The narcissist will constantly compare the most ridiculous of things, looking for anything he/she has (or can do) that is better than someone else. If the narcissist is unable to produce or claim an ability to do something better than you, then he/she will minimize or criticize your possession/achievement.


Bitterness / Contempt / Hatred.
Nothing the narcissist has (and no one he/she knows, including family) is ever perfect enough to satisfy him/her.  He/she will constantly complain and criticize -- to the point of insult and verbal abuse. The narcissist will complain about the same exact things for years on end, but will never DO anything constructively to improve (him/herself) or change the situation.


Negative / Pessimistic / Cynical.
The narcissist will almost never have anything nice or good to say about anyone or anything, unless of course, he/she can take credit for something.  The narcissist will never encourage anyone in his/her sphere to win or excel at any endeavor, but will typically let them know the odds of failure instead, particularly if there is a possibility that someone else's achievements might put them in the limelight. Only the narcissist deserves to be in the limelight, and he/she will literally hope and pray for everyone else's failure.


Projecting of Faults and Motives.
The narcissist will always suspect or accuse everyone within his/her sphere of influence of thinking or doing the same evil things he/she thinks and does.  If the narcissist has stolen from you, then you are automatically guilty of plotting to steal from the narcissist.  If the narcissist has slandered you behind your back, then you are automatically guilty of saying bad things about the narcissist behind his/her back.  If the narcissist hates or abuses you, he/she will insist to everyone that you are the one who hates and abuses the narcissist.


Backstabbing / Two-faced.
The narcissist is not your friend.  Ever.  He/she will only pretend to like you, then gossip and ruthlessly slander you behind your back, only to come to crawling back to your ear when he/she wants to gossip about and ruthlessly slander someone else.   Remember this:  The narcissist has no friends;  the narcissist only keeps people that he/she can manipulate and/or exploit.


Tyrannical.
The narcissist is an explosive bully who will not recognize the boundaries and 'separateness' of other people within their sphere.  Even simple, insignificant things such as hanging the toilet paper roll the opposite direction or disagreeing with the narcissist over how to cook a certain dish, can and will result in the calm narcissist instantly transforming into a tyrant on the warpath.


Grandiose Sense of Entitlement.
The narcissist does not believe he/she should have to work for anything, whether it be wealth, respect, admiration, praise, etc. The narcissist is entitled to receive these things simply because he/she deserves them. 


Lives in Constant Fantasy.
The narcissist lives in a dream world where he/she is always the center of attention, has the perfect family, is extremely wealthy, is loved and respected unconditionally, etc.  The narcissist will spend years counting (and spending) money he/she doesn't have, imagining how happy he/she would be if only the narcissist's family would go away and be magically replaced by the perfect movie or TV family.  The narcissist believes he/she is more beautiful and more physically/sexually appealing than what may actually be true.


Obsession With Appearance..
And not just his/her own (perfect) appearance, but everyone else's (imperfect) appearance, too. The narcissist will always find flaws in everything and in everyone, and will never miss an opportunity to point them out to you (and everyone else).  The narcissist firmly believes he/she is better looking than everyone else, and will let you know this at every opportunity.  The narcissist will fish for compliments on strange things, especially when comparing him/herself to everyone else within the narcissist's sphere.


Fear of Isolation.
The narcissist is unable to be alone with his/herself. Isolation is unbearable and even terrifying to the narcissist, because he/she needs to feed off the constant attention and validation of others. For the narcissist, isolation equals starvation.


Manipulative.
The narcissist is self-serving and will use guilt-trips, tell lies, spread gossip, fish for compliments and validation, pretend to like people, manufacture convincing (but fake) emotions, and generally use anyone and everyone within the narcissist's sphere to achieve his/her own agenda (which is often, at its core, a very confusing, convoluted, and illogical agenda). The narcissist will trick you into believing he/she cares for you, only to malign you later on when it suits him/her.


Is Never Wrong.
The narcissist is always right.  About everything.  You cannot reason with a narcissist or get him/her to see any side of any story but his/her own side.  The narcissist will never consider any opinion or proven fact that differs from his/her belief, but will instead argue incessantly to defend his/her belief, opinion, or story.  If the narcissist in unable to 'convert' you to his/her own warped truth, he/she manipulate you with guilt for daring to see things differently than the narcissist.


Combative / Argumentative. 
The narcissist is like a snake, always looking for an opportunity to start an argument, and will fight incessantly (and pointlessly) about the same exact things, round and round for years and years.  The narcissist will always be the one to start arguments, and often for no particular reason.  The narcissist needs to win every argument, and will never stop raging.. until you back down first and allow him/her to have the last word.  Beware though: The narcissist's last words, once he/she has reached a state of boiling rage, will always be cutting, insulting, abusive barbs meant to injure or even destroy you, if possible.

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46 comments:

Maripaz said...

That was my second husband. He not only a narcissists but as well as a batterer, womanizer, sexual addict and excellent actor/liar. Everytime I was in his way with women he would beat me. Our divorce is in process and he found his third wife 35 who looks like his youngest daughter. He met his match.

cstallen said...

I live with a narc(wife), known a few others over my lifetime, this article is helpful yet to rigid. I would not say 'all these traits all the time" there are variations, female narcs are typically different than male narcs. An example, a male narc I 'knew' was competitive to the point of ridiculous, he showed many but not all traits listed above. My wife (female), is not outwardly competitive (yet its in there if called upon), but she is higher on some of the other traits listed above.

ODHonesty said...

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Bill Bennett said...

Blows my mind to see this. Spent 6 months with a partner thinking it was me the whole time.

missy morris said...

I go through all of those every day. Sometimes til the early morning hrs. He never stops!!!! He twists conversations n is trying to turn my own kids against me. He will sit in the bedroom and emotionally torment me and then turn around and deny it n put the blame on me. I cant take it anymore. He has me financially trapped and he knows it!

karen pelletier said...

I am shocked not to see a photo of my ex somewhere in this article. Fits to a tee. It is frightening. I hope the next victim he charms will pick up on these traits faster than I did. I wish there was a warning label that came with these monsters!!

Karen M said...

I am also shocked karen pelletier to not see my "present husband's" picture here. I wished there was a label. But 21 years ago at the time, I was too dumb to notice it. Now that God has shown me truth and my eyes wide open, and a child of 13 yrs with the man, I'm trying to fight against this snake everyday of my life in my own home. It's awful!! My son thinks he's wonderful because he "BUYS" his love so the narc can get what he wants from our son. Any clues how to break away with my son??? before he damages him?

B2F2M2G2M said...

Beware of the female Savage

aNuManNow said...

1. Talk to a lawyer and know your rights.
2. Realize you are dealing with someone with a mental illness, they will not change and educate yourself.
3. Document (audio/video record) everything.
4.Protect yourself (mentally, physically, financially and emotionally) while planning your exit strategy.
5. (And most important) RUN, RUN,RUN!!!

Steven Paige said...

I have dealt with several female narcissists, and while they use the run of the mill N tactics, one that is tailored by women is: "If he doesn't do/say what I tell him to, I will go to the police and accuse him of this, this and this".

ERIN SWINDLER said...

My mom. Mommy Dearest. I cut her out my life months ago....and it was one of the best things I have ever done. There is no relationship to be had with a true narcissist. I could not be happier. They are very toxic people. Run from them! :)

Fred Dawn said...

This article specifically describes the "fake dr" TINA PARKMAN delusional narcissist , with fake degrees

Ants Ward said...

this is excellent its bold and to the point a great description i have added this page to my facebook page ''narcissist help for men'' thank you

Lil never sail said...

The one thing that boggles my mind is how well narcs hide their true nature. But then if the devil presented himself in all his ugliness you'd reject him right away. They have to come as pleasing and enticing to gain access into your life. And isn't it like them to say your stupid if you can't see how evil I am. Sadly we can't see intention. The lengths they will go to to totally distort your reality is like using voo doo on you.
Manipulation is the highest form of witchcraft. The bible says we will know a spirit by its fruits. Real evil is manifested through these people. Like they are conduits. Or portals. The absolute hatred that I've seen when he rages. His face contorts, his eyes turn black. Like when a shark attacks its prey. Unmerciful consumption of your soul. And like sharks they swim angrily about through life devouring all in their path. Relentless, deliberate predators.
I am glad for sites like this. Read read read as much as you can. Although badly wounded sometimes the prey gets up and escapes. No one can take your free will not even the devil. But he will try....

Gwendolyn said...

This is an excellent description of a narcissist. I have lived with them my whole life, believing often that I was the problem, constantly falling into false guilt, but never able to see what I did wrong that would cause this contempt for me. Now that I have become in formed over the past few years, I see that when I am at fault for something it is clear and I know it. But when I can't figure it out and the narcissist refuses to explain, then I know it was not me. It is so freeing and blessed to know what we are dealing with and how to deal with it. Thank you for this article!

snakeoil said...

my daughter had spent the better part of a year with a Narcissist. Never respected her boundaries,and was disrespectful. When ever she needed him, he was not to be found. Yet he expected her to be available whenever he requested her presence. He had a lavish lifestyle, and he never was generous with her, just the opposite.
She requested boundaries in the relationship and he came unglued, calling her intense,etc..
He continues to text her, and she refrains from answering as she sees any problem is ultimately her "fault".

Unknown said...

This was/is my father, found this out by accident last year. For 40+ years I knew something was wrong with our relationship, I always believed something was just not right with my "normal", just never knew what. I believed that all of the behaviour above by my father was normal, my therapist clarified that it is not.

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Laura said...

This is all so so true. I saw the emails she makes me look bad when she's the abuser.I can't ever defend myself. She always threatens me to not say anything, when I do she abuses me and lies about it and tells everyone that I was hurting her.this person is my mom.she hates me and I can't stand her.Im depressed and I only have two friends which she uses any opportunity to tell them what I do when she does the abuse.im only 15 I am a girl who is helpless and hurt by my mom. Then my dad backs her up. It's just so hard for me because no one will understand me. Thanks for this website!! ☺

janda said...

This is my adult daughter and it never stops. Every argument she instigates ends with her veiled threat of not being allowed to see my grandson. They are my only family, but I fear someday I may have to file an elder abuse form to keep her away from me for my own mental health and safety. Sometimes things will go for two or three months without a major rage by her, other times it's almost daily. I never know what triggers her abuse, mostly unhappiness with her own life and things that are going on in her life that she takes out on me, I guess. I'm just barely hanging in there, eventually something has to give.

weathermachine said...

this is a whole family i know and are supposedly "friends". thy have destroyed my reputation academically finding info on me they are true creeps decrepid people i really hope they die lonely and hated they are really spiteful bastards

mr. bend said...

One time I was visiting my mom. Had not seen her in a year. She waited until I came back from a short trip to turn the washing machine on. Seconds before I walked in it started to fill. The first load was done done and dry with a dry sheet outside in the wind. My stuff stacked where I would sit to watch the golf tourney.
The planning this took to try and make it as uncomfortable as possible is amazing given its my MOM!!!
Good to know, but kinda sad too.

ahrebgs said...

I totally understand. I was u. I'm 41 now & it has destroyed my life because I never got the help I needed 2 learn better. 2 Narcs & 2 babies later & no mother & father around, I had 2 face it as it was an undeniable pattern. Save urself the heartache. All of us can no matter what our age is. The sooner the better. Go 2 website below & do the work... ur young... ur smart enough 2 know something isn't right... ur not alone... u can change ur life.

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Tonia said...

My mother is a narc and ruined my dad's life..tore him down to the point of stress shingles then cancer and then really treated him bad for being needy and being able to be the "victim" and then on the day he passed,the nurses were appalled that she never held his hand,kept sighing and looking at the clock and even made jokes..they were married 45 years! My poor father...I knew that my mom was a monster but never knew until I was like 40 about narcissism. (I'm 48 and been out of their house since 20) I look back now that I know and understand it all..remembered that my dad and I were her targets and my two brothers were not and what she must have put my father through once I was gone and he had to take the brunt of all of her abuse..I sincerely believe she made his life a hell beyond anything anyone could imagine behind the scenes and eventually took his life away..it's very sad and when I lost him I had already known all that I had learned and it's the part of mourning him that kills me the most.

Tonia said...

My mother is a narc and ruined my dad's life..tore him down to the point of stress shingles then cancer and then really treated him bad for being needy and being able to be the "victim" and then on the day he passed,the nurses were appalled that she never held his hand,kept sighing and looking at the clock and even made jokes..they were married 45 years! My poor father...I knew that my mom was a monster but never knew until I was like 40 about narcissism. (I'm 48 and been out of their house since 20) I look back now that I know and understand it all..remembered that my dad and I were her targets and my two brothers were not and what she must have put my father through once I was gone and he had to take the brunt of all of her abuse..I sincerely believe she made his life a hell beyond anything anyone could imagine behind the scenes and eventually took his life away..it's very sad and when I lost him I had already known all that I had learned and it's the part of mourning him that kills me the most.

Kathy C said...

My step son is currently living with me and he fits into all these to a T... especially the not being able to be alone. I never understood him until I read this, it is like an owners manual to his mind! He is leaving soon and I have to worry that he doesn't do anything before he goes! Fingers crossed and prayers to God for help!

LaLa said...

My boyfriend of eight years.....this fits him to a T...I'm DONE have my own apartment...my own car...good job....not looking back....the best advice I can give any women is don't look back don't call him don't answer calls from him if you see him don't make eye contact and cross the street...or RUN.....they are the most evil of all evil...DONT LOOK BACK..there only goal is to ruin your life

LaLa said...

My boyfriend of eight years.....this fits him to a T...I'm DONE have my own apartment...my own car...good job....not looking back....the best advice I can give any women is don't look back don't call him don't answer calls from him if you see him don't make eye contact and cross the street...or RUN.....they are the most evil of all evil...DONT LOOK BACK..there only goal is to ruin your life

Mommaof6 said...

It's amazing that this sounds just like a person who accuses others of being narcissists!!

Pompous hack said...

I've married three. A beater, a big cheater but the third caused me irreversible pain so bad I'm in treatment and probably will be for years. This is just about best written article and description I've read. I feel like you've been a fly on the wall in my house. Financial was his thing and he used to look me straight in the eye and say, ARE YOU CRITICISING ME? When this happened I knew it was all down hill for days after that remark.

Unknown said...

This is a great article! My partners ex wife and step daughters mum is a true narcissist and she has put us all thru hell the last 4 years! A month into our relationship she smashed up the house we were in bleached all our clothes and then went to my partners parents to drag his mum a cross her sitting room screaming how my partner was disrespecting his kids having his girlfriend stay! And she did all this whilst including crashing the car due to her rage with her kids in the car listening and watching it all! She left him because she was in love with someone else yet has treated us like she's had an affair! She's tried to run him over lied to everyone about us abused us made her eldest daughter so ill she's even attempted suicide! Doctors and the mebtal health adolescent team knos how dNgerous she is bit we are powerless to do a thing about it! As this woman denies she has ever done a thing wrong and says we were in the wrong because we called the police that one time Nd that makes us worse than her by miles she says!!! Not an ounce of remorse!!!! We are all having treatment at thr cost of hundreds a month but the one person who needs treatment is doing nothing!! She's currently training to be a mental health nurse! Her own daughters laughed and said she can't even see whats going on under your own nose how the hell is she going to help anyone with their problems! It's been upsetting but helpful reading such honest articles as it's so hard to explain to people how a narcissist makes you go insane!! This explains it very well!!!! I can't wait for the divorce to finely be sorted and we get full custody of the children she is destroying but when that finally happens she still won't admit she's done a thing wrong!! She is a lovely person apparently!!!!!

Unknown said...

This is a great article! My partners ex wife and step daughters mum is a true narcissist and she has put us all thru hell the last 4 years! A month into our relationship she smashed up the house we were in bleached all our clothes and then went to my partners parents to drag his mum a cross her sitting room screaming how my partner was disrespecting his kids having his girlfriend stay! And she did all this whilst including crashing the car due to her rage with her kids in the car listening and watching it all! She left him because she was in love with someone else yet has treated us like she's had an affair! She's tried to run him over lied to everyone about us abused us made her eldest daughter so ill she's even attempted suicide! Doctors and the mebtal health adolescent team knos how dNgerous she is bit we are powerless to do a thing about it! As this woman denies she has ever done a thing wrong and says we were in the wrong because we called the police that one time Nd that makes us worse than her by miles she says!!! Not an ounce of remorse!!!! We are all having treatment at thr cost of hundreds a month but the one person who needs treatment is doing nothing!! She's currently training to be a mental health nurse! Her own daughters laughed and said she can't even see whats going on under your own nose how the hell is she going to help anyone with their problems! It's been upsetting but helpful reading such honest articles as it's so hard to explain to people how a narcissist makes you go insane!! This explains it very well!!!! I can't wait for the divorce to finely be sorted and we get full custody of the children she is destroying but when that finally happens she still won't admit she's done a thing wrong!! She is a lovely person apparently!!!!!

Rpin101 said...

This is truly awful to read I'm so sorry for you and your family!!! It should be legal to just destroy these narcissists!! They are beyond evil and wreck so many people it just shouldn't be allowed! Stay strong Tonia

Kim Neer said...

I had a best friend that fit this to a T!! Luckily I let that friendship go. Or at least tried. That is when the really horrible stuff started happening. Heaven forbid someone leave her side! She actually went so far that I had to turn her in to the sheriff and had to move! Thank heaven though, with the move, she is far far away!

LaLa said...

The truth! My ex narc is and will always be a monster.......so glad he's gone....just feel pity for his new supply....hope she figures it out faster then I did.....he's almost 50....so it's caught up with him....he's getting slow in his older age.....lost his career this past summer for stealing and lying....and doing drugs......even these narc monsters time runs out.....karma....

darco said...

Narc father, 80 yrs old, my brother 59 yrs old and myself 52 yrs old, have lived drama all our lives, our father leaving our dear mom after 28 yrs, always un faithful to her, married a women my own age, at the time she was in her early 20's, my dad being 30 yrs older, she finally left him after 18 yrs, he went out of control.. dating frenzy keeping books on everyone he dated, married for third time again in 2008, the yr my mom passed of alzheimers , my mother in law the following yr with the same illness as my mom ( they were good friends, father in law left mom in law for younger women too) In 2000 my husband being treated very badly by my father got sick himself, was diganoised with bipolar, a serious case of it, father then acted out when husband went to hospital and played he was having a heart attack while my hubby going to emergency.. i had two young sons aswell.. i have been married to my hubby for 34 yrs, been a challenge, but its manageable, has good n bad days, stress is hard on him.. my dad was very successful and is a multi millionaire.. he lives a very lavish lifestyle, now with 3rd wife, we have learned she to is narcistic... and has other mental health issues include. attempting twice to take her own life with pills, leaving my father each yr for reason such as her new rolex has not enough diamonds, you would not believe in my words how this women is spending.. so now in dads aging yrs and his own dementia is starting, not a friend to be had..she has taken him from all his family members, moved him out of city he lived in all his life, never around for holidays, he is now changing his POA for care and finance and changes in his will . she refuse to give us medical info but will tell us his blood pressure is such as 247/148, high right? was not the case, but insisted we not contact him so he would not be upset, kept yelling on the phone, hope u don't have a heart attack, she attacked each one of his grandkids with silly un true comments , nasty comments about our mother, whom she never knew, and was a true dear. my dads dad suffered from alztimers our dad made fun of his own father, when my father had prostrate cancer, my brother had same at same time, my father tried to fight with his own son as to who was most sick.. I have tried hard to remove myself and have a very good fullfilled life with our own family and grandmas, now i won't allow this women to take over my fathers care when she is not fit, and to make changes in his affairs, especially to to his sisters who can use the inheritence and his grandkids, he is now fearful from his narcistic wife if he speakes up she may leave him and she has threatened him, what to do, do we have any rights? she will not EVER allow our dad to talk to us private on the phone or visit his kids alone, this is just a nightmare we have lived and living, anyone have any suggestions, i was told dad was narcistic,, he was always a tough hard head headed businessman, not many have much nice to say. we worked for our dad many many yrs, and were dismissed as no good, could never measure up, OK, i guess u hear me, we all seem to be on the same page, i ams sorry for everyone else pain aswell ,, .. i still seem to be looking for dads love...these articles maybe will wake me up once and for all, many thanks...good luck to all

Katya said...

This describes my father exactly. My mother drank bourbon heavily in order to live with him; they came from an era when "good" women did not get divorced. He was a complete jackass even on his death bed. My brother lives in denial of who our father was and what he did to us. Dearest papa tried to ruin my life to his dying day. In a sense, I sort of wish his idea of hell does exist.

Jamie Olsen said...

I just experienced the same exact thing. I was always getting the toxic silent treatment rage abuse. And somehow he had me feeling like it was all my fault.

KSM said...

This post is somewhat deceiving. My father was a Narcissist. He had lots of nice things to say about certain people if by doing so he could put me or my brother down or in am awkward position or embarrassing situation. He often would flatter people and compliment them for their achievements, beauty, talent, intellect whatever and with a flair of the insult to those who he should have loved. He was too generous to strangers and casual acquaintances always with that which was not his to give away. It made him look wonderful. It made him appear to be the most loving, generous, kindly, godly man on earth. Except to his wife, his son and me, his daughter.

Essentially, a Narcissist comes across as Mr. Wonderful to outsiders.

Unknown said...

this is my husband every single last trait, I feel like there is something wrong with me, at least that is how he makes me feel.. Dealing with a person like this is just an endless rollercoaster ride.. 15 yrs of dealing I am ready to walk away. it alwAys surprises me how be could be this totally different person outside of the home and when he comes back in the home he switched. Mr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde to a tee..

Jessica Smith said...

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Seven Series said...

I think Ive almost been a narcissistic person. I seem to have some but Never have I ever slandered someone, for real. In fact, others have done that to me. So I'm honest and Ive got moral compass and sometimes to the point of understanding others but I end up being walked away on whenever I rage or something I do I think I am good and excellent as hell and I'm highly competitive, which makes me feel sick sometimes when I do start a competition. Like for no reason? I do isolate and enjoy this feeling and It doesnt seem like im completely a narc due to my efforts to avoid getting into this criteria but I'm curious, if I ain't narcisstic. My rage isn't normal then. I have realized this and rage has always been my daily thing so im always in a WTF im ready for a fight mode. I hate this, I hate it when I think I'm natcisstic and my friends told me that I'm not. I hope they were right. Lol, I don't trust my friends.

Seven Series said...

Ive scored low on BPD and I do not have any issues regarding on empathy, its just that I have this weird perception that people ain't safe and people are harmful, removing them and cutting off when I truly find them useless had also been my thing. I don't believe this amounts to abandonment issues, like I said, I cut people out when i find them useless ,unhelpful and harmful to me. Lol Any opinions?

Unknown said...

Seven, you sound like you've been jilted a few times and have developed some trust issues. But definitely don't come across as someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

For one thing, a true Narcissist would NEVER believe (or even entertain the possibility) that something was their fault or that something was wrong with them. Narcissists habitually blame everyone else.

Also, lack of empathy is the #1 trait of a true narcissist. They literally 'feel' nothing for other people, although they can pretend very well when garnering 'allies'.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder shares the same personality disorder cluster as that of the Psychopath.

Terri M.

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